Natali Perilo, a 39-year-old behavior analyst in Brooklyn, and her husband, Josh, have been struggling to have a baby for 11 years. They finally lined up a surrogate — but those plans are now up in the air.

My husband and I were going to transfer our embryo in April. But now everything is on hold.

We’ve been trying to have a baby for 11 years. Josh and I got married when I was 28 and he was 32 and we wanted to start a family quickly. We tried for two years, then we went to a fertility clinic.

At 36, I started doing IVF. It really took a toll. I had a few chemical pregnancies [miscarriage before five weeks] and then a seven-week miscarriage. That was the turning point, when things felt really dark.

We did more IVF, and last summer I got pregnant but lost the baby again. I felt like I needed to take a break; it’s so much trauma.

We decided to try a surrogate. Our first one dropped out and we lost thousands of dollars, but we found a wonderful woman in December and our embryo was supposed to be transferred to her in April.

Now that can’t happen. The surrogate would have to take immune-suppressing steroids, which is, of course, dangerous to do with coronavirus, and clinics are recommending against the drugs.

It’s hard believing we’ll ever make it to the other side.

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