Tori Spelling was mom-shamed on a family trip this weekend — but not for her somewhat dreary, conventional choice of an outing to a pumpkin patch.
The 46-year-old star was called out on Instagram after posting pictures of her five-strong brood of kids including a snap of younger daughter, Hattie, 8, showing off purple-hued hair. It had obviously been dyed or colored with spray.
“Why would you let your daughter have red hair?” the critic wrote. “Parenting gone wrong.”
Blasted by Tori fans, the judgmental commentator went on to say: “I would NEVER dye my kids’ hair at all at a young age.”
She conceded that when they get older, they can make their own decisions, but added that: “a child that young shouldn’t have their hair colored at all. They should embrace their beauty and naturalness.”
Beauty and naturalness? That old argument.
Here’s betting the critic is a woman of a certain age who is against girls getting their ears pierced before they reach the age of consent.
I gilded our family’s lily in June 2018. That’s when I finally gave into pleas from my then 10-year-old, Daisy, to dye her hair magenta.
I paid a New York salon $80 to tinge the bottom of her blond bob a deep, purply pink. School was out in two days and it was shortly before my daughter headed off to sleepaway camp.
Daisy was rapturous about her change of appearance. Her face exuded joy. She radiated confidence and sass.
While most of her friends and family seemed impressed by the radical difference, one relative was not so impressed. My mother-in-law told Daisy: “Promise me, you will never dye your hair again!”
She didn’t mom-shame me, but the inference was there. (I love my MIL and have gotten over it just fine.)
Now my 9-year-old son, Bobby, is begging to have blue streaks run through his hair like his idol, British YouTuber Dan TDM.
He doesn’t just want them for Halloween. He wants them for good.
The jury’s out on that one, but I did invest in some washable blue hair dye from Party City for Bobby the other day.
Some kids like to blend in. Others like to stand out from the crowd. That’s cool. What’s uncool is the Judgy McJudgies like Hattie’s detractor. Weren’t they young themselves once, after all?